Different strokes for different folks is the key over here. I’m not qualified to answer that quesiton though even in general, let alone on a case by case basis, which is how it needs to be answered.

On the other hand, that might be one of the fundamental differences between Lakewood vs. YU/Torah U’Mada styles.

Can you guess which side I into?

Perused your blog the other day…thanks for the linkback! Pretty cool stuff!

The issue i have found being in yeshiva for a while, is that guys leave yeshiva to work when they have squeezed every last drop out of that particular place or lifestyle. If people would be advised to leave on a high, when you are just past the crest and not in the valley of being burnt out, they would maintain that joy they found when they were younger, look back and have no bitter memories of those times.

I plan on leaving yeshiva within the next year or two, before I get that glazed over feeling, before I no longer find the joy in learning everyday. I will do it because I want to remember my yeshiva days fondly and have the feeling of wanting to go back, not dreading to go back

That’s why you get married, that hopefully the two of you realize together when it’s time to move on and/or how to reinject that chiyus. But what about her? She has the same potential to fall into the same place…

I, too, worry sometimes. But every once in a long while you meet the joyful, alive, passionate older version of yourself and that gives you hope that it is possible.