I don’t know, I just don’t know….while I agree with you in theory (and you put that very nicely; two points), it’s not so simple. What if you want to stay idealistic but your choice is idealism or kids? What if you want to stay idealistic but daas Torah tells you otherwise (I think that’s where that post was coming from btw)? I know, there’s a comeback for each of those. Just saying that it’s complicated. Just get yourself married “young and dumb,” alright? Maybe not dumb, but at least young. Then you won’t have to write embarrassing posts and find yourself discussing them publicly two years later

Cynical in that it was advocating trading idealism for realism… I think some values are traded in currencies so rare and unique that they simply can’t be traded. Idealism is one of them.

Cynical? In what way? [Uh oh, am I too cynical to see when I'm cynical? ] I’m not sure what you’re saying; I was beating down on idealism? I agree with you though; I was just talking to a friend who was saying that part of maturing is losing your idealism. I think she’s equating getting burned out with responsibilities of real life with maturing.

Which dilemma? Sorry, a little slow today…

As for your dilemma…well, at least you were makir that it was doublethought. Halfway there, eh?

Bear in mind that many of the points still hold true, and all of it might be true for someone else. But for me, parts of it were doublethought. Then again, it’s years later, who knows what exactly I was thinking and feeling then…